Why We Choose This
This theme touches my heart deeply. Some traditions share that before we come into this life, our souls make agreements. We choose our parents, the people we love, and sometimes – those we will lose. It’s believed that some of the toughest experiences are, on a soul level, part of those pre-made plans.
I understand how difficult this idea can sound when you’re grieving. It might seem cruel, or like an easy way out of real pain, or like someone’s trying to put a nice bow on something that’s incredibly hard.
For me, it was the ONLY thing that helped me understand the agonizing question of why my son died. Let me share my personal truth about this idea of soul planning.
I believe our souls don’t pick suffering because suffering is good. Instead, sometimes our souls choose experiences that crack us wide open—because that’s how the light gets in. That’s how we grow into who we’re meant to be. Some lessons can only be learned this way.
That doesn’t make the loss any easier. It doesn’t lessen the pain of missing someone. And it doesn’t mean you have to feel grateful, or enlightened, or at peace with what happened. You’re completely allowed to be angry. Grieving for as long as you need is part of the process. Soul agreements don’t require you to perform spiritually or hide your feelings.
What they do offer—and only if you want it—is a new perspective on the question of why. Not why did this happen to me, which often has no satisfying answer. But why, in its infinite wisdom, did my soul choose a life—including this?
That question has an answer. It unfolds slowly, over time. It might take years. It may come piece by piece—a realization here, a memory there, a moment when suddenly it all makes sense.
And when that answer begins to emerge, it doesn’t take away the grief. Instead, it places the grief within something bigger—something with purpose. Something your soul knew all along.
You didn’t fail by losing them. You are exactly where you’re meant to be.
Even this. Especially this. Sit with this quety, gently, see if it resonates with your soul 
